rebelutionary / 2.0

time heals all.

we all have experiences that change us profoundly. the best we can do it try and sift out the positive pieces and reincorporate them back into ourselves to make us stronger for the next time.

of course i have no idea what happened, but it would be improper to expect you to do a brain dump on your life in such a public place. (thats why we have blogs with access controls :)

put on some music that you love (or listen to http://fotap.org/mp3/mixes/Essential%20Mix%202003-06-22.mp3 (muzic/muzic at the prompt) if you're into some excellent uk hip-hop. if you like funk and dirty bass it should make you smile) and dance your ass off. whatever it is to make a release of energy.

Hey - keep your chin up. :)

For what it matters, I thought you spoke very well at the AJUG last Wednesday. I actually went home and began creating a blog and had a renewed interest in Java.

Look after yourself Mike - things will all work out in the end, it just takes time.

A few beers can sometimes help in the short term :)

Well according to my head, beer is a very short term solution.

Otherwise, heads up Mike, whatever happened.

When your life shatters into a million pieces, pick up the pieces, grab some glue, and make a new one. Try to relax and enjoy the crisis.

Keep your chin up Mike!

I'm sure you'll come out this sítuation (whatever it is) stronger and wiser! Sometimes, although we don't like to admit it, we need something extreme like this to happen for personal growth...

Take her outside and slap her.

Sounds like someone trying to feel self important to me.

Sorry to hear that,

just don't forget to step back and get a different perspective.
Most of us here have probably gone through crisis of some sort, real disappointments, loss of family or close friends, and heart-breaking moments that make us wish our own end. But I also bet most of us still don't have a fucking clue what real suffering is. We're the lucky ones dude.

It's all a matter of perspective, and you will hopefully keep that in mind and say "Fuck it, it ain't my fault and I'll get on with it!".

We're rooting for you dude.

Woman trouble? Time to listen to some blues.

Really sorry to stumble upon this. You always seemed so happy go lucky :)

I join the other folks who have commented ... I hope it all works out for the best for you mate, and we are all here for you.

sorry to hear it bud .. wish i could help, but just know you've got a lot of friends wishing you the best.

Mike - my sympathies to you. I agree that life happiness beats out business success. But as you've learned either can disappear in a heartbeat. Sometimes it's our fault, sometimes it's not. Either way, it comes down to acts of God or fallen mankind and the sins we commit.

It may have been you, it may have been somebody else, I don't know, but we're all affected by it. I hope that you have a strong spiritual side to your life to help you cope, or that you are willing to consider that body, mind, and spirit (sould) together make a complete person, and seeking out the spiritual is worthwhile.

It's my personal belief that God has good answers for all the tough questions we ask ourselves, as told through the Prophets, Jesus, and the Apostles. We may not like the answers, and we (mankind) will continue to sin whether we listen to and follow him or not, but He has provided a way for us to return to Him, our creator, and put our life in this world behind us.

Seek Him out by reading the Bible, because he has divinely inspired it's writing so we can know him. Don't listen to other men tell you how to act or what to say or which church to go to - read the Bible and find out for yourself, and those who accept God and Jesus as savior have the additional resources of prayer and the Holy Spirit to aid them in the daily struggles of life.

If you're concerned that the God of the Bible isn't the right spiritual choice, I recommend reading Charles "Chuck" Colson's book "How Now Shall We Live?", which reviews various religions and beliefs and builds a case for believing in a God who has revealed himself and his love for us.

I'm sorry if you think I'm preaching, but I'm really not -- I just want to point out some resources that can help you out. I prefer that you think and learn for yourself what "truth" is. But I do recommend that you visit with a Christian friend or associate to help you find additional resources, or just to talk.

And I have to be honest -- I don't know how I could get through any "life-shattering" event without His assistance in return joy to my life despite the pain. Pain is real and comes and goes in life, but it can lead to despair and poor choices when you don't have a compass to guide you and a friend to comfort you and share your grief and innermost being. I believe that compass is God, and that friend is Jesus.

I just wanted to share this because some of the other responses here seemed to ring hollow to me. You're strong enough to get over it, listen to some music, hurt somebody, throw yourself back at your work or into something else, time heals all wounds, forget it and move on, get drunk, get a new perspective, know that we've all been through this before, etc. As if any of that helps! How will any of that really address what's happened? How would any of that be comforting? The answer is it doesn't.

But I agree with Dion and Cameron - you have friends (even if you don't know them!) who are here for you and wishing you well as you struggle to regain your footing.

I hope you can be enouraged by this to work through the pain and to discover the truth about your life, and sometime soon be able to regain some of the happiness in your life, or at least the knowledge that nothing will ever be "right" with the world, because this is not our true home, but we can make the journey and get home to our Father in Heaven who was a plan and love for each of us individually, warts and all.

Whether you want it or not, I will pray for you, that your can recover and can find His light though the chaos and darkness you're experiencing. I wish you well,

Gerry

My grandfather which I loved very much just died before two weeks, from my experience it is the best to relax and not to hold it in your self, drink a couple of beers (not too much) and cry it out.
Spend more time with goood friends.

We all believe that you should not feel sad and that you deserve to be happy. So don't wory so much.

"Tough times don't last. Tough people do."

My wife used to have this pinned to her wall at the office when she was through some really tough time. I guess it's not only true for business...

I wish you all the best anyway. Time will help you through all this.

Shit happens. But often it turns out nicely in the long run. My personal happiness was shattered squarely a year ago - and, surprisingly things only got better. Hope yours will do (they will ;)

Mike -- from a total stranger on the other side of the big blue marble; I feel for you. I disagree with folks who say "buck up and cheer up, brighter days ahead". The only way to move past it is to deal with it. Be sad, cry, be angry, mope about for a while. Talk to your friends about it, get it out of your system. It will probably take a while. But don't bury it in something else (work, booze, sex), you're only putting it off, it just snowballs into an even bigger problem.

You're a smart guy with a good head on your shoulders. It'll really suck for a while, but make sure it doesn't suck for longer than it has to.

Hey fella - I just read this - didn't realise on IM the other day, sorry. I have nothing to add to the other comments here, but just wanted to say hi and I hope things get better (as they surely will) sooner rather than later. Take it easy mate.

Hi Mike,
I know the feeling,
hope you are feeling better.

Hi Mike,

Sorry to hear it - you seem like a really nice bloke. Hope you are feeling better real soon.

When I'm down, I always look to the word of God.
"When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you." -- Isaiah 43:2
Hope it helps.

Hey Mike,

Praying for you, and that things work out right for you.

Rob